No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice

HarperOne Paperback OriginalThe essential modern guide for understanding what divides us and the path to building a better community—a revolutionary call to arms for embracing kindness and empathy, from queer advocate and sex educator Max Hovey.

Exclusionary and derogatory rhetoric in online spaces like “no fats, no fems” is often an unfortunate reality for many queer people and speaks to a larger issue at hand—but it doesn’t have to be this way.Max Hovey has gained thousands of supporters worldwide in his efforts to challenge stereotypes and unpack the problematic ideologies queer people can place on each other—and often on themselves. Combining diverse personal testimonies and the latest research from across the LGBTQIA+ community, his groundbreaking guide explores:
prejudice in queer spaces through discussions of race, class, and identitythe historical evolution of queer thoughtthe role of intersectionality in the fight for LGBTQIA+ rightsinternalized homophobia and its role in creating divisionbody image issues and the importance of sexual liberationself-reflection through understanding different perspectivesways to promote positivity and acceptance in ourselves and otherswhat having pride and community really means
Regardless of background or sexual orientation, our mutual goal is empathy, and Max gives us all the tools needed to get there. The Velvet Rage for a modern audience, No Fats, No Fems is an urgent call to action, offering a roadmap to building stronger community and a much kinder future.